I don't know exactly when it was that I first became in touch with my "inner-bitch," but I was pretty young. I do remember telling off a teacher (not mine) who had excluded me from trying out for a school performance despite previous arrangements having been made. I knew she wasn't the one really in charge and therefore not the one at fault. The teacher at fault was an old hag who would have had my head on a platter, but I wanted to get my message across, and if giving it to her lackey was the only way, so be it. As I recall, it worked - at least to some extent.
It's a great feeling - standing up for myself. Something every woman should know, however today it seems modern culture has overblown and skewered this in women today. Young girls watching reality shows are learning lessons in getting in touch with their "inner-cunt" -- not something that I would recommend.
Scarlett O'Hara was in touch with her inner bitch. 
but she still had class.
The Jersey Shore girls on the other hand . . .
I'm not writing this just to focus attention on crass shows like "Jerseylicious" or "Real Housewives" or any one of the number of television programs that have taken etiquette cues from the Jerry Springer Show.
Yes, there are times when standing up for yourself are inevitably going to result in the "Bitch" label. This is something some girls seem to shy away from, where I say "own it." But, good lord! Know how to pick your battles! Also, know where the line is drawn between B & C.
A Bitch stands up for herself and frequently in defense of her family. Assertiveness is the hallmark of a Bitch. Although the word itself is a vulgarity of language (derived, as it were, from the old English "bicche" for female dog) there is no need for a Bitch to be vulgar herself.
aggressive = bitchy female
While no such archetype exists for males, females were not to be aggressive, sexually or otherwise. But the line between aggressive and rude behavior is where today's women seem to be losing focus.
Rude and vulgar behavior brings women down to the level of dogs (the reason for the vulgarity in the first place -- and please remember; when the epithet was first bantered about, dogs were not the pampered pups that we think of today). The insult existed for a reason - to point out behavior that was deemed socially unacceptable and curb it by branding it with a derogatory term.
The image of female aggression = rudeness.
I, for one, am tired of this thinking and reject it wholeheartedly. In order to truly embrace the Inner Bitch ideal - one must eschew rudeness from aggression. There's no need to be crass to be a Bitch. One may be a Lady and a Bitch -- just ask Disney.
